If there was any millennial term that reflected today’s generation, ‘ghosting’ or being ‘ghosted’ would definitely sit at the top of the list. Used by celebrities and artists alike to label cutting off a relationship, the word was more recently used to describe the end of Canadian rapper Drake and model Bella Hadid’s short-term relationship, “he basically ghosted her”, a report claimed.
Go on any social media platform such as Instagram or Twitter with the hashtag #ghosted, and you can clearly see why it’s become an important topic: “getting ghosted is honestly my favourite thing in the world”, tweets one user, “you thought your mcm ghosted you but he can’t afford the social media package”, types another. Clearly being ‘ghosted’ has allowed people to see the hilarity in being unceremoniously dumped without communication, but what about the downside? If we’re honest, most of us have done it before, cutting off people who aren’t good for you; toxic relationships, un-supportive ‘friends’, and let’s admit – we’ve only ever felt better off for doing it. But trailing down the #ghosted trend on Twitter, along with the sarcastic and aloof tweets, there are people who don’t see the funny side:
Reading all of the above made me feel unsure about all the times I’ve used the word but also slightly guilty to all the would-be boyfriends and ex-friends that I’d left behind. Psychology Today estimates that over 50% of people have experienced ghosting, and while doing it to others made me feel empowered and in control of my life and those in it, (emphasised by the dark-humour of twitter), I also felt slightly nagging thoughts that maybe with a few words or a private conversation that those friendships and relationships I gave up would’ve been rectified.
Have you ever ghosted someone, or woken up to someone close suddenly cutting you out of their lives?
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